You see your child misbehaving, and you tell him to stop. He ignores you, and you tell him again. You are getting frustrated. He says "OK, I will", then 10 minutes later the same thing is going on. You're really angry now. It feels like your authority as a parent means nothing. If other adults are around then it's even worse, you feel ineffective and inadequate. So you yell, "I TOLD YOU TO STOP THAT RIGHT NOW. GET OVER HERE." You grab him by the arm when he comes to you, give him a shake, and tell him to go to his room. "YOU'RE GOING TO GET A WHIPPING FOR NOT MINDING ME." …
